关于跨文化婚恋的不容易

今天有个哥们儿回了我一个数十天之前的谈论跨文化婚恋的帖子，恰好我刚在 reddit 上刷到了一个帖子，贴过来给大家看看，就文化差异其实是很大的：

原帖：question about dating a chinese man

内容：

I've known now my chinese boyfriend for over month now, our relationship progress really fast in my opinion, he's really attentive and give me gifts when ever I see him ( we don't live in the same city, but the same country), and he even joined me on a trip that I already had planned months before meeting him because he did not want me to be alone in one of the two weeks that I was in the country that I visited. when I'm with him he doesn't want me to use my card even once and as a western independant woman i'm really not use to that and feel kind of bad that he pays for everything every time we are together. is it a normal thing ? because if that's the case my bar in dating men has been lower than low. How can i in return show him my appreciation, because I'm an impatient woman, I get annoy fast and I don't want to do or say something that might hurst his feelings. He really is showing me a lot of attention and I'm kinda on the defense. We have a 5 years age gap and he has 2 children that he has custody of, theirs mothers are in china

看看外面的世界，就能走到一起的婚姻，其实还是相当艰难的。